This is useful information, thanks for that. Im interested how do you find the low power (35w) i3-2100T CPU in your setup, is it fast enough, as I noticed your running the E3-1265V2 on a different board. Does this board have IPMI and why did you go for the 1265V2 over other CPU's ?
Late answer, but i hope it helps you.
The i3-2100t works ok, i did not do lots of testing though. It runs stable with copy to the server, and streaming worked ok sometimes (problems with this mainbord in other threads)
The 'other' bord i use is an X9SAE-V which has no ipmi and is more a workstation than a server mainbord. The E3-1265L v2 works ok as this has a c216 chipset and needs the video part in the chip (the E3-12X5 chips have video)
I picked the 1265 chip over the others because of the lower TDP.
As for the cou cooler question, i use an noctua NH-U9B se2 which is small enough not to block the first pci-e slot.