Moderator note: madburg started this way back in May of 2011, and deserves an enormous amount of credit and appreciation, from many users (both unRAID users and others from around the web). Fireball3 has picked it up and is maintaining it now, and also deserves much credit and appreciation. But it has now grown to over 74 pages, and as the flash files and tools and instructions have been upgraded over time, it has become hard to find the latest info for particular situations and hardware. So
Guys,
SUCCESS! I ended up using MPTUTIL in the L8i_IT package mentioned earlier in our convo. I used the CLEAR.BAT script, and it basically walked me through the process, getting the SAS number, etc. I should have known earlier, as in the BIOS when booting, it describes the controller as "LSI MPT SAS ROM", which i recognized after booting successfully the first time and it coming up.
So, luckily enough, i didnt brick my controller, and im up and running! Huge thanks to Jonny and Fire