As you can see from the image, The parity sync is going to take quite a while. I suspect that either a drive or a connection to a drive is causing the slowness, but I am unsure how to check that. I have attached the diagnostics for anyone that is kind enough to check them out for me.
note* for anyone who cant see the image, or if it doesn't load for some reason, here are the numbers:
Total Size: 12 TB
Elapsed time: 11 minutes
Current position: 44.9MB (0.0%)
Estimated speed: 47.6KB/sec
Estimated finish: 2903 days, 17 hours, 40 minutes
jej-unraid-diagnostics-20210120-1057.zip