So I switched it up and moved to wireguard and while vpn works and provoxy works I can no longer access the ui. docker is on a diff network then my lan. I added 192.168.0.0/16 to the local ranges under special. still no luck. just weird.
Somehow I messed up the LAN_NETWORKS variable and forgot to include my other lan. It was there before and I think I removed it trying to figure out what was broken with openvpn. Still not sure about that but wireguard seems to improve speeds. Thanks again for the software bud.