colocate? then how does my pc get access to the router?

Move the server near the router and connect with cat-5e or better cable.

The router is physically right on top of the server, unless you meant the uverse router

But if I move the router there, couldn't wire it to my PC, my PC is wireless

The router is the problem, not unRAID.  See here: http://www.dd-wrt.com/phpBB2/

I've been hoping it was the router but I'm thinking it might not be

After I thought about it I realized a way to take your advice, to remove the dd-wrt router out of the picture

I lugged the server down to the Uverse router and plugged it in.

I then used a wireless adapter on the PC upstairs to access the unraid server

Picking something under 1080p, it played, but then I tried to pause and unpause the video, the server went off the network again

Post a syslog that contains an "offline" period.

is the syslog always running? or do i have to set it up?

Enter "//tower/log/syslog" in a browser. Select all and then copy to a text file. Use Notepad++. Attach the file to a post. Use zip if needed.

I've been hoping it was the router but I'm thinking it might not be

After I thought about it I realized a way to take your advice, to remove the dd-wrt router out of the picture

I lugged the server down to the Uverse router and plugged it in.

I then used a wireless adapter on the PC upstairs to access the unraid server

Picking something under 1080p, it played, but then I tried to pause and unpause the video, the server went off the network again

This might very well be a problem in your wireless setup. In general throughput on wireless is not good enough to stream 1080p video.

 

Are you using G or N wireless components?

 

To exclude the wireless story try your setup first on wired connections.

 

I wasn't trying something 1080, i was trying something under 480p actually, and old TVrip of rugrats

I don't have any issues streaming SD moveis wireless from my server .  BD movies in the other hand stutters every 2 seconds.

Here is the syslog, the server was off the network, reconnected to it, then lost it, then reconnected again

syslog-2012-05-13.txt

Another quick update, I noticed last night, that if the server is pinging the PC, and is constantly pinging it, the connection seems to stay on

So here's a thought after a bunch of different scenarios

changing wires

Changing routers

Changing set-ups

I still have lose of network

Now if Unraid isn't the problem like one member said, could the network card be?

If so can anyone recommend a good cheap network card, at say best buy (cause it's local and as a decent return policy) to try?

Switched a wire, and now it's working, not sure what happened, really would like to but it's wokring!

Thanks to everyone for the help and advice