after walking away in frustration i came back, disabled hyperv again, double checked my xml with the vrchat changes, booted up the vm, and now it works all of a sudden. dont know what changed cause i did nothing different in the xml. maybe somethign to do with me disabling hyperv and the vm restarting caused the changes to apply? not sure but its working now.
anyone in the future follow this guide as of 12/9/22
https://docs.vrchat.com/docs/using-vrchat-in-a-virtual-machine
