what you way you want conflicts with what you say you need. if your current level of cpu handles all the gaming servers, and you added 39% more power with the outlined proc above, you'd have WAY more than you need already. And justifying more cpu power for plex is negated by using a more efficient GPU for transcoding. On my primary server, using a E3-1220 v5 (passmark 7768) it runs a vm with firewall, NAS storage, could berry (2 instances) for encrypted backup, plex with GPU transcoding, mine0s hosting few worlds, next cloud/mariadb/duckdns/letsencrypt, zero tier, wireguard, 10GB networking pushing and pulling over 500MB/s, and a few other things. And it never struggles.
I use to have a quad socket 580G7 with 80 threads, but this newer one kills it in terms of efficiency and actually runs smoother.
Point being, if you're dead set on having "all the cores" then go for it. But I don't think you really need them. And on the subject of Ram, yeah, max that out IF you have a need for it. Otherwise, its again a waste. I'm not saying buy the workstation I outlined, I'm saying understand the need, and where you're going to grow in the next few years. Because right now, your use case and wish list don't line up.