I been testing the hardware, and every OS I have tried was stable except Unraid, and that's why I tried here. Ram has passed 16hr runs of memtest86, hardware was stabile with constant 100% loads in windows running handbrake, Cinebench, etc. trying to get any sort of issue to rear its head.
Perhaps the answer is to just switch the OS, because to replace the motherboard, ram, and CPU with same items is a minimum $1500, when nothing is testing bad. So I'm hesitant to throw money into a fire just because it's something to do.
I suppose I need to figure out how to retrieve my files from the array since unraid is unable to run stable enough to move it off normally.