Pending sectors usually mean bad sectors, i.e. sectors that can't be read, extended SMART test confirms it's a disk problem, so yes you need to replace it.
Regarding parity valid or not, we'd need the diagnostics, but if there were no errors during the parity sync it can be assumed valid (assuming no other hardware issues that would cause sync errors like bad or failing RAM), and it also depends if the parity check that ran after was correct or non correct, in some rare cases a correcting check can corrupt parity if there are read errors an a data disk, but again we'd need the diags to confirm.