Value needs to be larger than the largest file you expect to copy there, we usually suggest using twice the value of the largest file you expect to copy, to have some margin.
Don't know is OSX supports server side copy with Samba, like Windows explorer does, if it doesn't data will transverse the network and will be much slower.
Yes, and if a Windows VM you can use explorer to make a local copy/move like mentioned.
Disk7 appears to be failing, run an extend SMART test to confirm, there are also read errors on disk1 causing filesystem issues, disk1 looks healthy, issue could be spin down related, run xfs_repair o it and disable spin down for a few days to test.
That usually points to a hardware issue, one thing you can try it to boot the server in safe mode with all docker/VMs disable, let it run as a basic NAS for a few days, if it still crashes it's likely a hardware problem, if it doesn't start turning on the other services one by one.
Could be related to this:
https://forums.unraid.net/bug-reports/prereleases/69x-610x-intel-i915-module-causing-system-hangs-with-no-report-in-syslog-r1674/?do=getNewComment&d=2&id=1674
To expand a little more on this, diags you posted don't show the rebuilds, but:
This means that the rebuilt disk10 will be corrupt, since when there were read errors on disk9 writes to disk10 would be skipped, so disk will be empty in those sectors.
This would also result on a corrupt rebuild since disk10 was already corrupt.
Same.
Could be a device problem, but the SASLP driver crashed, one of the reasons those controllers are not recommended, connect that SSD to an Intel SATA port, swap with another device if needed, and try again, post new diags if it fails again.
Yep, check filesystem on both disabled disks, then if they mount look for a lost+found folder, if there's a lot of files there it's probably best to re-sync parity instead of rebuilding.